Ayelet Waldman isn't alone, nor should she be

In 2005, Ayelet Waldman an author,(she's under Resources on your right) made a comment about how she loved her husband more than she loved her children. Mothers all around America lost it & villified her. If you look at it from a biblical stand point, we're supposed to feel that way. Genisis 2: 24-25 For this cause, a man shall leave his father & mother & cleave to his wife, & they shall become one flesh. When married people take their vows, the official says, at one point "let no man put asunder", that means children too. Mothers forget that their children are only with them for a time. You're not raising your children to be of one flesh. You're raising your children so you can push them out of the nest. Because families have become disjointed, & divorce has been so pervasive, I think mothers have tried to become one flesh with their children. When you get married, the official also says "till death do you part" but people don't take that seriously anymore. It used to be, that couples stayed married until death. For example, my Father- in -laws parents were married for sixty sum odd years. I don't know how long they were married before my father-in-law (Don) came along, (he's the oldest) but lets just say it was five years. So they spent five years together alone & then their first child was born. I don't know exactly what the age difference is between Don & his brother, but lets say three years. So Don's parents raised children for about twenty one years, if I'm right about the age difference. Don's father lived to be in his eighty's & his mother is still alive. That means that they spent more than forty years together, just the two of them. You have to love your spouse more than your child to do that. You're going to bed & waking up with this same person for sixty years. You're eating dinner with this same person for sixty years. You have company, when the children come, for twenty out of the sixty. Our plan is to be married until one of us is carried out of the house feet first. Brian & I acknowledge that on July 18th 1998, we became one flesh, that no man will put asunder, till death do us part. That our children are gonna grow up & leave the nest. That we will be alone, together for (hopefully) years after the children are no longer in our company. So that means, for me & Ayelet Waldman, that we love our husbands more than our children.